The FIrst CRUSH!

The FIrst CRUSH!

                Well,  as I was talking about Teen issues and stuff I would like to start my today’s topic with 'CRUSHES'. I know the next stage in life i was going to discuss about was Adulthood... but what the heck, it can wait as this is one thing which needs more lime light according to me.  In a teen agers lifetime he or she always faces this situation where they start liking a person with unmatchable bounds of love, they start imagining themselves with this loved one, Hand in hand, walking in the meadows, they even plan the names of their kids, where they are going to live, and what not crap, BUT! all this remains uncertain as they hardly gathering up enough courage to go and approach this person and convey their feelings to them. Only a select few spill the beans to their beloved, rest i guess stay happy with their so called imaginary lovers in their dreams as they dread getting no as an answer to their proposal. This no {according to me} is as Devastating as the END OF THE WORLD!, to them of-course.                   If all they do gather enough courage other thoughts start evading our minds such as, "What if she likes someone else?", "What if she has a Boy friend?", "What if she stops talking to me after this?" and due to all these "what if's" the poor guy or gal again suffers a nervous breakdown{of a small kind} and ends up running back to his burrow. And yet again they end up confining their relationships with their loved ones to just their dreams. Never knowing what the answer on the other side would have been.                   But i dont say this happens to everyone, some apply the "Nike" motto to their lives and "just do it". Now everyone has their own way of proposing their beloved, some do it on their birthdays as in most cases as they feel the reply from the opposite person cannot be negative as its their birthday, what happens next cannot be predicted as the chances remain 50-50. Other than this situations such as friendly outings, School Farewells, late night phone calls and the most stupid of them all text messages and social networking sites prove to be as a perfect stage for carrying out these great deeds. Till now the discussion has been only about the proposal. Well now comes the next part{n according to me the more off important one}. THE REPLY!                   Well now i know that this part is all "mirch- masala" according to us but normally in 90% cases the reply is never given at the time of proposal, the girl normally asks for some time, as in days or weeks at times, which is said to be the most crucial time for the guys. Because if its going to be a yes then 'life is set BOSS!' but if its a no then its all tears for girls and BOOZE for boys. One never like to imagine that the latter might occur but anxiety does make us think otherwise. though we never might accept it. In this period boys normally keep on messaging romantic stuff to girls to express that they truly love them. Girls on the other hand are in two minds if they do not know this person well and have second thoughts about the relationship. This activity is carried out continually till the day arrives. The day of the decision. JUDGEMENT DAY!                   Judgement day is by far the most dreaded day for teen agers, as it is, on this very day and date their fate is gonna be written, a day which is going to decide weather or not this person is gonna be theirs forever and after or NOT!. When this day arrives guys are normally too nervous go know about the decision and take the support of a friend who provides then emotional backing just incase its gonna be a no on the other side. the probability of a yes or a no are no more of ne value as the only response they expect is a YES!. And if it does turn out to be that way there are no bounds to happiness to that of the boy. Rest as we know is happily ever after. {im sorry i fail to provide the viewpoints of a gal as it dunno much about them}. But if its a no, the guy normally detaches himself from everyone for sometime, starts prefers solitude and listens to sad songs. He loses all interest in current affairs going in and around him and starts thinking over and over again about what went wrong. this goes on for some more time and as time heals everything he comes back to normal. But in his free time he is always reminded that once he like a girl and but he could never make her his....



{pleas comment, the above passage is from a boys point of view, i m sorry i could not do justice to how a girl thinks about such occurrences, i would be more than happy to post a girls point of view if helped.. please comment with your views}
...........................By Sadanad niranjan shenoy................................